More and more people remarry, not just once but several times after their first marriage (and divorce). Let’s explore some trends about the stage of life called “remarrying”.
Usually people remarry because of failed relationships or when his/her spouse passes away.
The usual reasons for divorce
Divorce is common all over the world. When things get shaky, this is the last resort for couples. There are many motivations and reasons for this, and most are valid. The usual reasons include:
- lack of communication
- sexual incapability
- emotional immaturity
- lack and loss of intimacy
- addiction – alcohol, drugs, gambling
- in-laws and outlaws
- infidelity
- childhood hangups
- money
- emotional, physical, mental abuse
- religious beliefs
- etc.
I can still enumerate more here.
3 to 4 years after divorce?
According to www.census.gov, half of those who remarry after divorce did so within 4 years.
According to a study entitled Remarriage in the United States released by the US Census Bureau (2006), the median time needed for an American to remarry after divorce is 3 to 4 years and this figure has remained stable for quite some time now. For those who got divorced from 1950 to 1954, it was 4 years.
The data used in the report was from the Survey of Income and Program Participation (1996, 2001, & 2004).
The data shows that in 1996, 43% of the total number of marriages in the US involved remarrying people. The figure decreased to 38% in 2001 and 36% in 2004.
Who are remarrying?
Using the figures in the same survey, approximately 60% of those who remarried (for both men and women) are between 25 – 44 years old. For men, 1/3 remarry at the age of 45 and beyond while for women 1/4 remarry at that same age, as pointed out by the same study above.
According to the book entitled Lost & Found Lovers: Facts and Fantasies of Rekindled Romances (2005), about six percent of the Americans remarry.
Why remarry?
One of main motivations of remarrying is to move on after divorce. However being married again does not guarantee emotional divorce. The image and memories of the ex-es will still linger. Also, nobody stops anyone from having a relationship again. It is just normal for people to find companionship, affection, care, and love.
Another reason cause why people remarry is the passing away of the spouse. According to a report entitled The Desire to Date and Remarry Among Older Widows and Widowers , after 6 months after spousal loss, men how have low or average social support from friends are more inclined to remarry.
Furthermore, those who have 18 months or more of relationship after their loss reported fewer symptoms of depression.
Closing Thoughts
People remarry for several reasons. Remarrying serves several purposes and one of this is to cope with the previous loss of a loved one. So again, how long does it take before someone remarries? It still depends on each specific case but generally it’s 3 to 4 years.
Will it remain the same?
How long does it take for someone to remarry?
About the Author: Ric is an expert on the topic of remarrying in the US. Check more of his posts at family lawyer in Delray Beach and divorce lawyer in Boca Raton.
It totally depends on the person and their reason for break up. We cannot generalize on how long a person should take. What works for one may not work for the other. But whatever the reason, it always is something disturbing. So give yourself 2 years atleast to come in terms with yourself, to grow, get more clear in our thoughts and then think of marriage.Jumping into it too soon can lead to problems.